First day of school pictures are flooding the internet. As kids head back to school, some look with great anticipation. Others are more reserved, typically because they are entering new territory by heading into a new and/or larger school. With either situation, kids will experience all sorts of emotions. Some placed on themselves, others placed by society.
A few weeks ago I walked into a local coffee shop behind three young ladies. I am guessing they were around 12-14 years old and clearly coming from some sort of dance/ballet class. As I listened to them order their lunch, I had a pit in my stomach. "I'll just have the fruit cup," said one. Another, "Can I have the chicken bacon avocado wrap without bacon, avocado or mayo?" The last, "Just a large iced coffee please."
It broke my heart to see these beautiful kids feel it necessary to eat so little just to fit the mold of society. If nothing else, Caitlyn Jenner, Simone Biles, Serena Williams, Hillary Clinton and many others reinforce how our society portrays women.
By definition according to Merriam-Webster, self esteem is a confidence and satisfaction in oneself.
In other words, their own thoughts and feelings about their ability to achieve in ways that are important to them. This self-esteem is shaped not only by a child's own perceptions and expectations, but also by the perceptions and expectations of significant people in their life-how they are thought of and treated by parents, teachers and friends.
Please take the time to watch this very powerful video.
Below are a few links on how help kids boost self-esteem.
Now that summer vacations are ending and the school year beginning, it is important to have these conversations.